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OT: I need advice from a pickup artist

  • volfan28 said...

    I'm not a social butterfly. I need someone to help me build a strategy. Here's the deal.. I was at the gym last week and in walks an absolute 10 wearing a Tennessee shirt (I live in Mississippi). I wanted to say something but I let her walk right by me and she gets on an elliptical.. opportunity wasted. Well I see her again the next day, she's on the elliptical again and I search for a ring but I couldn't get a good look without being creepy. Saw her again yesterday... she get's off the elliptical and starts working the machines. No ring. We look at each other all the time but I'm struggling to strike up a conversation. My intial plan was to say something at the water fountain but I noticed yesterday that she brings her own water. I've got to say something next time I see her or I'm gonna lose my mind, could be tonight. I usually don't have trouble with this because I usually follow the 3 second rule and say something right away but I didn't do that here and this girl has me trippin. I need a coach.

    I'll update my progress in this thread for your entertainment

    P.S. If by chance you are this girls dad please keep quiet so I can have a chance here. Thanks

    1. Grow a beard.
    2. Wear an eyepatch.
    3. Ask her if she knows anything about killing raccoons.

    OR

    Just comment on her Tennessee apparel. But do it soon, the longer the wait, the more awkward it will be to bring it up. Good luck! Unless you follow the first three steps, in which case, may God have mercy on your soul.

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    MiltonVol

  • Just to add to my previous post. Women naturally like a man's friendship. You'll never see a woman that doesn't have male friends (I think this is why women love gay men). Mainly because men don't have hormones that changes their mood frequently and usually don't involve petty drama. Lots of guys have natural instincts to give off the impression that he just wants to have sex with a woman that he approaches. So naturually, when female natural meets male natural, women will have a negative vibe of and rejection usually occurs. I don't mean to sound homosexual, but it really worked for me when I started approaching women as if I was just meeting a new buddy for the first time. Don't give off the "I just want to take you back home" vibe, just give her the feeling that you are having a conversation to set up a future friendship. e.g. "You'll have to let me know if you ever have a group of friends get together to catch a game".

    wright2100

  • Be yourself and be confident. Act like you have talked to girls as beautiful as her before lol. Treat her like a regular person. Hit her with a smile and a hey hows it going. Then see how she acts.

    KeenanMiracle

  • wright2100 said...

    What comes to your mind when you see her? Something appropriate ofcourse. Just say what's on your mind. The only time girls get creeped out is when a guy stares at her without saying anything or saying something inappropriate. I bet you, if she's seen you look at her and you haven't talked to her yet, then she's probably already labeled you as a shy guy. The best thing at this point to do would be to approach her with innocent confidence. My definition of innocent confidence is saying whatever's on your mind (respectfully, ofcourse) with a "I hate to bother you, but.." type feel. It seems like it's bothering the heck out of you and trust me, you would rather be rejected then never know what could have been made from just striking up a conversation. Just one line, man. The conversation will build after that.

    I like the way you think

    volfan28

  • Just remember that Orange is your connection. Wear your Vol gear and she'll acknowledge that connection. But, JMO, I'd wear matching socks even if they're not Vol wear. GOOD LUCK! GO VOLFAN! banjo

    This post was edited by OrangeNCarolina on 8/7/2012 at 3:45 PM

    BUTCH IS NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART. GO VOLS!

    OrangeNCarolina ●

  • volfan28 said...

    I know I need to grow a pair. It's embarrassing. The fact is I have never in my life approached a girl that looks this good. She scares the crap out of me. I'm here seeking motivation and accountability so I do appreciate your comments.

    If she scares the crap out of you then give it up. You'll never be able to date her on an even basis and you'll worry about every other guy in the world hitting on her when you aren't around. You need to be secure enough with yourself to date a beautiful woman.

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    RunThruThe T

  • RunThruThe T said...

    If she scares the crap out of you then give it up. You'll never be able to date her on an even basis and you'll worry about every other guy in the world hitting on her when you aren't around. You need to be secure enough with yourself to date a beautiful woman.

    Wear orange our something Vol related, make eye contact between sets and simply approach her and have an innocent conversation. Feel your way through the conversation and the opportunity will present itself to either ask for her number, set a date, or simply get to know her (for the next conversation).

    Truth is, you may not even be that into her when she opens her mouth...it happens. Some people don't give the same aura when you talk to them. With that thought in mind, you should feel less pressure.

    Remember these two things, "women want men to talk to them" and "10 seconds of courage is all it takes to break the ice". Just don't be a douchebag and you'll be fine.

    This post was edited by Agent Orange on 8/7/2012 at 3:58 PM

    Agent Orange

  • volfan28 said...

    I know I need to grow a pair. It's embarrassing. The fact is I have never in my life approached a girl that looks this good. She scares the crap out of me. I'm here seeking motivation and accountability so I do appreciate your comments.

    You only get a few chances at anything in life. That window of opportunity is getting smaller for you .... the longer you wait. The only thing she can say is no or get the mess away from me... unless you show up in an eye patch and 247 gear screaming, "argggg I'm a pirate".... then she might have you arrested...

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    Go Vols

    orangeasylum ●

  • RunThruThe T said...

    If she scares the crap out of you then give it up. You'll never be able to date her on an even basis and you'll worry about every other guy in the world hitting on her when you aren't around. You need to be secure enough with yourself to date a beautiful woman.

    I've dated beautiful women my whole life but I've never had to approach one. If she gets to know me I'm good. It's the approach that has me trippin but I'm liking the advice in this thread. Starting to feel pretty good about it.

    volfan28

  • NoVa Vol said...

    Just go up, say hi and introduce yourself. That's it.

    Say hi while you are wearing a UT shirt. That will give you a common ground. If you don't have one, we'll pitch in and buy you one.

    Ask if she'd like to go get coffee sometime.

    If she says no, who cares.

    If she says yes, great but remember it's only coffee.

    Good luck dude. Remember there are a zillion girls out there, don't get super hung up on this one.

    NoVa gives you perfect advice. Pay attention and follow it to the "T" I met a Miss Knoxville kind of like that, and now she's my wife. We were UT students at the time. We have a great marriage and beautiful kids. This could happen to you, too. Hotties like no-bs guys.

    1966utgrad

  • BE YOURSELF!!! We can tell when u are trying too hard! I don't like that! The Vols would be the best way in. I love to talk football and I am comfortable talking about it anywhere. That is a nice neutral topic to start with. You can "hit" on her without actually hitting on her.

    gr82btnvol ●

  • gr82btnvol said...

    BE YOURSELF!!! We can tell when u are trying too hard! I don't like that! The Vols would be the best way in. I love to talk football and I am comfortable talking about it anywhere. That is a nice neutral topic to start with. You can "hit" on her without actually hitting on her.

    Amen, sister. Shy is not the problem, overly aggressive is.

    1966utgrad

  • Just smile and say hey the next time you two make substantial eye contact. She'll say hello back (as long as she doesn't think you've been creeping on her) and take it from there. Maybe tell her you noticed her Vols gear and that you don't see too many fellow Vols fans around where you live. The easiest way to strike up a conversation with a stranger is if you know you have a common interest.

    The most important thing is to try not to rehearse anything, because it's usually really obvious if a guy (or anyone really) has practiced what they're going to say. Just be natural. Go with it. That way if she likes you then you know she likes you for yourself and not for what you're trying to pretend to be.

    Good luck!

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    Daye

  • gr82btnvol said...

    BE YOURSELF!!! We can tell when u are trying too hard! I don't like that! The Vols would be the best way in. I love to talk football and I am comfortable talking about it anywhere. That is a nice neutral topic to start with. You can "hit" on her without actually hitting on her.

    I knew our resident Lady Vols would have the right perspective.

    Agent Orange

  • Mention the acronym GTL, show her your best "Fist Pump", and ask her how many shots she can do... Works every time.

    BigOrangeBeer ●

  • Good advice people. If I can trick myself into thinking of her as a friend and ignoring her good looks I'll be fine. I have a good personality but girls have always made themselves avaible to me by way of mutual friends. I've never dated anyone that I had to approach so this is new to me. The problem with the mutual friend thing is I don't live near my hometown anymore.. everyone that people try to "hook me up" with lives 2 to 4 hours away so I've got to try something new.

    I'm leaving work now. I'll be at the gym at about 6:00. My arms should look huge by 6:15 lol I'll keep you posted.

    volfan28

  • volfan28 said...

    Good advice people. If I can trick myself into thinking of her as a friend and ignoring her good looks I'll be fine. I have a good personality but girls have always made themselves avaible to me by way of mutual friends. I've never dated anyone that I had to approach so this is new to me. The problem with the mutual friend thing is I don't live near my hometown anymore.. everyone that people try to "hook me up" with lives 2 to 4 hours away so I've got to try something new.

    I'm leaving work now. I'll be at the gym at about 6:00. My arms should look huge by 6:15 lol I'll keep you posted.

    Don't trick yourself! Convince yourself that you are a great catch for anyone. Believe in yourself!! She would be lucky to be with you not vice versa! Be confident without being cocky!! Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a man can have!!

    gr82btnvol ●

  • gr82btnvol said...

    Don't trick yourself! Convince yourself that you are a great catch for anyone. Believe in yourself!! She would be lucky to be with you not vice versa! Be confident without being cocky!! Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a man can have!!

    Yes! Yes! Woo!

    volfan28

  • volfan28 said...

    Then show her my socks but I have to be careful which shoe to take off because I only have one Tennessee sock.

    Darn' son...one UT sock and your having trouble talking to a ten with a UT shirt. Man Jerry Clower couldn't come up with this one. We've got a shoeless on the site and now sockless. I'd go with Rocky's suggestion.

    tnbear66

  • Just go with teh vols ice breaker. Something to the fact that "I noticed you had a vols t on the other day. I haven't met many fans from Mississippi. Do you go to many games, etc." And all this is done when you are working out beside her if she works upper body or whatever. If she seems interested you can get her name and number and maybe tell her that you all need to catch a game at a bar. I took the best comments and then made it my own. Plus the Mississippi thing is a good ice breaker.

    woody_12

  • Darn it, I got in late on thIs one. I was born to help guys with the ladies. Not really, but I always dated and later married out of my league (just ask et4vols, makes him angry sometimes haha) because I just talk and act like myself around girls. My with wishes I didn't sometimes, actually... Oh well.

    JHSVol ●

  • Bpatte64 said...

    Just sprinkle glitter on yourself and stand in the sunlight (artificial light will work too). She should come running. Seriously just say Hi. If you get the smile keep talking, if not shut up and take your frustration out on the weights

    I just let my wife read this thread. She said this would work.

    No seriously, she said man up and strike up a conversation about the vols.

    wataugavol ●

  • Live update: the fox is in the den. Been here since I arrived. Been on the elliptical for at least 40 minutes. No wonder she looks so good!

    volfan28

  • volfan28 said...

    Live update: the fox is in the den. Been here since I arrived. Been on the elliptical for at least 40 minutes. No wonder she looks so good!

    Smokey's on the prowl.

    Agent Orange

  • Just be friendly, don't try to hit a homerun tonight. Just start to open a channel of communication that can be built upon later. Unless she has a boyfriend, then tell her she has ugly knees. That'll show her.

    JHSVol ●

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